Encouragement for Teachers, Preachers, Mentors, etc.

There were several times during my teaching years when I felt like quitting. Sometimes the discouragement came from difficult responses from parents; other times it came from the attitudes or behavior of students. Every so often, things would build to the point where I wondered whether I could keep going. In fact, if my fifth year of teaching had been my first, it probably would have been my last. Thankfully, my first year was filled with cooperative, respectful students, and my sixth year—which also became my final year in the classroom—was much better. In the end, I left teaching for financial reasons, not because I had lost heart.

I remember my seventh- and eighth-grade homeroom teacher, Mr. Terrell. I especially liked him. He noticed that I could play with the parallax between my left and right eyes, and he would frequently say, “Open that eye, Gary!” There were three Garys in our class, and one of them was often getting into trouble. At one point, Mr. Terrell told him, “Gary, if you do that again, your name is going to be mud.” It was not long before there were only two Garys left in the class.

One day each week, Mr. Terrell displayed the word “SIR” in capital letters at the front of the room. That meant any question or answer had to include the word “sir” in order to be considered correct. It was a simple classroom practice, but it has stayed with me all these years.

Recently, I saw a post on Instagram about a man who, as a young student, was asked by his teacher what he wanted to be when he grew up. He answered that he wanted to become a film director, and the class erupted in laughter. The teacher responded by saying, “If anyone can do that, he can.” That one statement inspired him, and he eventually became a film producer.
Years later, that film producer realized the impact his teacher’s words had made on his life and decided to contact him. He was only able to reach the teacher’s wife, so he asked if he could send a note for her to pass along. She explained that her husband was in the hospital with back problems. When she took the note to him, however, it turned out that he was actually hospitalized because of deep depression. He later told his former student that the note had saved his life. He had been feeling as though his teaching had never made a difference in anyone’s life, and that simple message gave him strength to go on.

Last Sunday, Pastor Jared mentioned someone he had tutored and encouraged many years ago. Recently, that former mentee contacted him to say that he is now a preacher and that Jared’s words had made a lasting difference in his life.
I have had similar experiences from my six years teaching junior high Bible and science at Westminster Christian Schools from 1979 to 1985. Over the years, I have reconnected with several former students whose words have deeply blessed me. They helped me see that the work I did during those years mattered more than I realized at the time.

My point is this: teachers, preachers, mentors, and small group leaders often have no idea how much impact they may be having on the lives of those who listen to them. Their words, encouragement, patience, and faithfulness may continue bearing fruit long after they have forgotten the moment. I want to encourage anyone who has influence over others to remember that what they are doing truly matters. There may be a whole web of people out there encouraging others today because, at some point, you encouraged them.

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Abiding in the Vine

John 15

I was enjoying a tasty cluster of grapes the other day.
As I picked one off its stem I realized that all the delicious juice inside had passed through that now dry stem.
Then
I thought about the seeds contained in the fruit – seeds  which can reproduce hundreds of new plants!
And that dry twig? It once was attached to a vine which pumped every drop of life through it to the cluster of grapes (“two or three gathered together”).
My mind took me to John 15:4-5 where Jesus said,
“Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” 

More on grapes

As I’ve considered this further, I realize that the stem that reaches the grapes is not the branch. The stem is part of the cluster that is picked along with the grapes. The branch remains for another season to produce more clusters. That’s “clusters“ – plural. My little stem of grapes was a small part of just one cluster among many others picked from just one branch on the vine. As individual branches attached to the vine, we can bear MUCH fruit – many clusters of fruit, stems with multiple grapes – as long as we remain attached to the vine.

The fruit of the spirit is a cluster, not a bunch of separate characteristics that we try to achieve, one at a time. We might try that, but as fruit of the Spirit, they all come together. “The fruit of the Spirit is…” not “the fruits of the Spirit are …”. It’s the work of Christ in us that produces the fruit. We can’t produce full clusters of fruit without connection to the vine.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23 (ESV)

Am I producing the fruit of the Spirit as I interface with the world? Or am I yielding sour grapes?

Are you?

And BTW, shouldn’t we be expecting to see the fruit of the Spirit in leaders who claim to be Christians?

Is that what we’re seeing?

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Should I?

The other day I was looking through the notes I had made in one of my old Bibles. It was the New American Standard that I received from the Lockman Foundation when I graduated from Biola College in 1978. I used it during the years I taught Bible and Science to sixth- through eighth grade students at Westminster Christian Schools. In recent weeks, I had recalled a list of suggestions I put together to help my students make decisions about whether they should participate in certain practices they were unsure about. I thought I had made a poster to display in the classroom as a reminder.

As I’ve been slowly cleaning our garage of 55 years of accumulation, I’ve recently wondered if I might find that poster. I had forgotten what some of the points were beyond the question of whether the issue was biblical.
Well, I found the list – not the poster, but the list on one of the pages in the back of that Bible.

Here’s the list, titled, “Should I?”

    1. Can I do it with a clear* conscience? (Romans 14:14; 21-23)
    2. Does it violate scriptural instructions?
    3. Does it cause anyone else to stumble? (Romans 14:13-20; 1 Corinthians 8)
    4. Am I really being honest with God and with myself? (Romans 14:5,12,21-23)
    5. Don’t judge others for concluding differently. (Romans 14:1-12)

* There is a difference between a clear and a seared conscience.
Other notes on the page were:

    1. Clean things are evil if they give offence. (Romans 14:20)
    2. Wounding the conscience of brethren = Sinning against Christ. (1 Corinthians 8:12)
    3. Knowing to do good and not doing it is sin. (James 4:17)
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Quick Update

I’ve been away from my blog for a while – mostly busy with other things, including some medical stuff. I haven’t been motivated much to get into it anyway, since very few even know that I have a blog. I’m not sure I’d even know if it was being read, since I have had comments turned off for years now.

I began this blog 20 years ago (May 2006), a couple of months after retiring. The most recent post was a few days before open heart surgery in 2025.
Next week I turn 80! I really didn’t think I would live this long, since the three paternal generations of parents before me were gone by their early 60’s. So I decided to retire at age 60 so that I would have a few years of opportunity for Christian service before the Lord took me home. Well, I’m still here two decades later. He’s not finished with me yet! One of my new favorite songs says, I thought gettin’ older would take a lot longer than it did!

My hope is to get back to posting. I want to encourage Christ followers to realize who they are in Christ: citizens of Heaven, children of God, joint-heirs with Christ, and eternally secure in Him. I want to encourage all of us Christ followers to act like it. We are to love God, love our neighbors, and love our enemies.
I also want to encourage those who aren’t trusting Christ to do so. I want them know that trusting Him isn’t throwing out their minds and abandoning reason.

So, I want to restart my efforts to blog.

Because He lives,
Gary

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There will be tears … someday

The time will come when we have to say, “Good night.” When that night comes there will be tears. My hope for my family and friends is that there will be a greater volume of tears of joy than of sorrow. There will be both. But let the joy overwhelm the sorrow.
For the Christ follower, the worst that can happen here brings entry into Heaven.

I wrote the above from a hospital bed on the cardiac floor of Hoag hospital in Newport Beach, California on October 20, 2020. I was there because of two heart attacks three days apart several weeks earlier. The day before that, I was on an operating table prepared for bypass surgery. Knowing that it was expected to take several hours, I was surprised when I woke up 30 to 45 minutes later and was told that surgery had to be aborted. There were clots that could have broken loose as the surgeon handled my heart and have gone into my brain.

Not so incidentally, this was in the early months of the Covid pandemic. I was aware that my wife and sons, and many others who were unable to visit me were extremely concerned. Indeed, it made me keenly aware of the reality of my mortality. My cardiologist assured me that I was not a “walking timebomb” and that my treatment could be managed with medication.

What I found remarkable was that I didn’t have a sense of fear. Instead, I had what I can only describe as what the Bible calls “the peace of God which surpasses all understanding” in Philippians 4.

Now, five years after the heart attacks that had me prepped for surgery in 2020, I am scheduled for surgery in the same hospital to repair the damage done back then. This is to involve repairing my heart where the aneurysm is. It may involve repairing or replacing a valve and will include a single bypass.

I noted in the 2021 version of this note, that I didn’t fear death. I still don’t. I look forward to heaven. I really do. But I want to complete God’s purpose for my life before I go. I believe that includes assuring that my offspring and all in my sphere of influence understand the Gospel well enough to choose to place their trust in Christ and follow Him.

My prayer as I prepare for the surgeon’s table is that God will be glorified in how my family and I handle the process and the outcome and that all who observe will be pointed to Christ.

Because He lives,
Gary

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Bethany Bible Fellowship’s Anniversaries

On Sunday June 22, 2025 Bethany celebrated the 50th anniversary of our first meeting.

2005 Video for Bethany’s 30’th Anniversary

1990 Reunion in the Shoff’s home

Following each of these video, you probably noticed “More from Gary Crocker” and a “+Follow” link.
Unless you are particularly interested in them, you need not go there.
Gary

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A Challenge to Write

We have met very few of our ancestors – just the few with whom we have shared, or are sharing, time on earth. For those we have met, our parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and perhaps one or two great grandparents, we have only memories of what they have told us or what has been told about them. Nearly all, if not all, are from oral conversations and stories. Little, if anything is written down. A few may still be around to tell us stories they have heard or to fill us in on a few details, but the older we get, the fewer and fewer of the sources are left. As we neglect collecting these stories, we allow a lot of our family “tribal knowledge” to pass away with the generations before us.

With ancestors who have not been our contemporaries, most information, except legal documents, are lost. There is little left behind to learn anything more than when and where they lived, or if they participated in a history-making event. For most of our ancestors, the only information available is a precious few vital statistics on a census, taken by strangers, and often misspelled or otherwise inaccurate, or records of transactions of temporal business. Some left wills where they made their wishes known about the distribution of their earthly leftovers. But few left journals or diaries in which they communicated something about themselves to future generations. Many of them couldn’t read or write.

We don’t know each other very well either. It’s unfortunate that we care little about what our parents think while we are growing up. As they get older, we are uncomfortable gathering information about their early years for fear that we might have to admit that they won’t be around forever.

Of course, the stories of events in their lives are not usually of great historic importance. And there may be things they do not want us to know. What is important is that we get to know them, not the nitty gritty dirt that makes them so much like us. If we happen upon negative information about them, we ought to recognize that we’re not that much different – we’re all messed up. (Romans 3:23, & context).

Objects passed down from our ancestors are nice to have and may be a treasure in the sense that they were owned, handled, and used by them. But they are still silent and lifeless objects. Writing, on the other hand, carries and preserves thoughts from the mind of one generation to any future generation who cares to read it. How precious it would be to have the expressions of thoughts and cares of some of our grandparents.

Personal letters may exist that might talk about events that were going on in the family at the time. And, we may have a few recordings made in recent years that should be digitized and transcribed and preserved for the family.

The point? There are several. First, do what you can to collect and preserve what information is still available. Conduct and record interviews with family members – of all generations still living. Encourage families to get their memories written down and shared. StoryWorth is a good starting point, not only for older generations, but for “mid-life” generations. Eric and Jenn set us up with StoryWorth for our birthdays this year. Every Monday morning we get an email with a new question about our life that we are to write about. I’ll have to admit that it’s easy to get behind on the questions, but they are still there to manage in spurts. At the end of the year, StoryWorth puts it all together into a hard bound book. What a treasure for the family.

Whether it’s through a tool like StoryWorth, starting a notebook, or whatever it takes to start writing your own story or autobiography, start doing it. You may not feel significant enough for an autobiography. Our lives don’t need to be filled with history-making events to carry interest to our offspring. While you’re at it, write to your loved ones to express your appreciation of them. Encourage them. Challenge them. Pass along what you have learned about life. They may not care now, but many of them will wish they knew more about you after you’re gone. So, write about your feelings, beliefs, day-to-day life, etc., etc., etc..

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A Few Things About God

  • God is Who He is. We can’t make Him into a God we like or want so that we can excuse what we’re doing.
  • The universe is not about me, and it’s not about you. It’s all about God.
  • We live in God’s creation, and He’s not obligated to do things our way.
  • “There is a god we want, and the God Who is – and they are not the same God. Real transformation begins when we stop seeking the god we want and begin seeking the God Who is.” Patrick Morley, Man in the Mirror
  • Not everything makes sense to us – but it does to God.
  • God loves us intensely.
  • Nothing catches God off guard.
  • God engineers our circumstances
    • With the purpose of conforming us to the image of Christ (Romans 8:28-29)
    • Using what He gets from us and those around us – sin and all
  • God wants us to trust Him.
    • In everything
    • He is trustworthy
  • We can thwart His plans for us – to our detriment.
  • He will do what it takes to get our attention. But if we continually refuse Him, He may get quieter and quieter until we can no longer hear Him. We may reach a point where he stops and gives us over to our passions and their natural results. (Romans 1:24, 26, 28)
  • God doesn’t come to our pity parties.
  • We do not live in the world as God created it. Mankind has fallen, and things are no longer the way they were supposed to be.

What some have said about God

“If Jesus rose from the dead, then you have to accept all that he said; if he didn’t rise from the dead, then why worry about any of what he said? The issue on which everything hangs is not whether or not you like his teaching but whether or not he rose from the dead.” Tim Keller

“As long as you do not begin with an imposed philosophical bias against the possibility of miracles, the Resurrection has as much attestation as any other ancient historical event.” Tim Keller

“I found out one day that God and I were incompatible and that one of us had to change.” Pete McKensie, Influencers West.

“… not what, in pride, we want to believe, but what, in humility, we must believe.” Randy Alcorn, about Erasing Hell, by Francis Chan and Preston Sprinkle, 2011.

“… not to apologize for God, but to apologize to God for presuming to be wiser and more loving than our Savior.” Ibid, Alcorn.

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The Message of the Bible (God speaking)

My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are my ways your ways. I don’t expect you to understand everything. (Isaiah 55:8-9), but here’s what I want you to know:
What God says about you:
I designed you
I planned you
I made you
I love you
I like you
I want you
I care about you
I bought you
I forgave you
I am with you
I have more for you

What God says about Himself
I know what I am doing


What God says that you can expect from Him:
I have given enough information – if you’re willing to pay attention – to know that I exist.
I will give you more information – if you’re willing to listen – to know that I am trustworthy to do what is best for you.
If you will ask, I will show you that you can trust Me.
If you’ll come to me, I will give you rest


What God says He expects from you
Trust in the Remedy I have provided for your sin
Make Me Lord of your life
Trust Me to get you through


What God says you need to keep in mind:
That I am God, and you are not
That My ways are not your ways
That My thoughts are not your thoughts
That I’m not obligated to do things your way
That I’m not obligated to explain myself
My ways may require pain – on your part, or on the part of those you love


And know this:
You can’t out-do My love. So –
     – Don’t presume that you are more loving than I am.
     – Don’t presume that you are wiser than I am. (“If I were God, I’d …”)
I don’t negotiate.


Also,
I can do anything
I’m not trying to confuse you – that’s the devil
I want you to have peace
I want you to have joy
My plan has an eternal perspective
     – It may involve pain
        – But only enough to accomplish my purpose in you
        – If that’s only to teach you something, the pain will end when you learn it.
         – If there is more, I’ll help you to endure it
               – It may be to learn how to comfort someone else
     – Please trust me
        – That’s your only way to peace

 

This list began on a napkin as Lynda and I were sitting in Starbucks one morning several years ago waiting for our car to be serviced across the street. We don’t remember what got the conversation started, but we began just writing down from memory what we saw as the message of the Bible. We have made modifications along the way since.

Note: There are very few original statements in this. Even where I haven’t cited the source of a statement, it is likely that I got it from someone else. No plagiarism is intended. Because He lives, Gary Crocker.

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Our Monarch Butterfly Nursery

God has given Lynda and me an exciting opportunity to watch one of His creations go through one of His most amazing processes — metamorphosis.

Early this month, (June 3), I saw a Monarch Butterfly land in a couple of milkweed plants that have sprung up in the last couple of years in our backyard. Since I had my ever-ready phone/camera in my shirt pocket, I whipped it out and grabbed a shot or two. It flew off and I went about whatever it was that I was doing.

Two days later I happened by the milkweed and noticed a big monarch caterpillar on a leaf. Suddenly I was seeing them all over the plant. I checked the other milkweed and found that it was also filled with caterpillars. I wasn’t able to count them all, but there were at least twenty between the two plants.

We’ve been watching them
closely in the week and a half
since. As of today, (June 12)
we have 5 chrysalises already
and 2 or 3 more that are
preparing for that stage, one in the “J” formation.

 

Watch the trailer on this site to see just how awesome this process is:

http://www.metamorphosisthefilm.com/

Update, June 15
As of this morning, we now have 10 chrysalises! Three transformed from caterpillar this morning and I was able to shoot video of the last one. We’re not seeing caterpillars anymore, but we’ve seen butterflies around the plants. I wonder if there are more eggs. We’ll now be watching for butterflies coming fresh from their metamorphosis! Stay tuned!

Update, July 15
When I get more time I need to bring this up to date! We’ve had more than 11 chrysalises form and “hatch” and I literally have hundreds of photos. They include shots of all, or most of the stages. I need to post a few. It has been an awesome experience watching one of the many demonstrations of God’s handiwork!

I’ll try to get to the update soon.

Because He lives,
Gary

 

 

 

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